Monday, February 8, 2010

Gay marriage.. I'm all for it.. wait.. no I'm not.. no.. yes ..

Yeah it's like that with me .. the whole gay marriage thing. I go back and forth on it.. Some days for the most part I am indifferent as to whether my gay brothers and sisters can tie the knot. I am not deeply affected either way. Part of me thinks it would serve yall right to get this "right" so yall can suffer like the rest of us.. All the joys of marriage... including divorce, child support, alimony "half!" But that's just mean-spirited. On other days there is that part of me that believes homosexuality is indeed an abomination before God and is to be condemned and not legitimized in any way shape or form. I guess my main opposition isn't so much to the gay folk, many of whom cannot help who and what they are and only want the same things in their relationships that us straight folk take for granted.

No my opposition is to the hypocrisy of the whole deal. I mean gay folk have spent decades fighting for the "right to be different" and to not have society treat them in a negative way because of it. For the gay movement now to turn around and demand this 'sameness' with respect to marriage kind of bothers me. You wanted to accepted as different, fine.. Now you want to be different but you want it called the same thing.. Not so fine. I am similarly annoyed with the mantra that when a vote goes a certain way that agrees with your agenda then "the people have spoken." Then when those same "people" vote a way you don't agree with then "the people are idiots and we have to sue for our rights" and find a sympathetic judge to overrule the will of the people. Pure hypocrisy. It is an unavoidable fact that in a Democracy some votes are going to go your way, and others are going to go the way of the opposition.

At last count every state that has put gay marriage to a vote except one or two has resulted in a resounding "NO" from "the people." That is not to say that the majority should be empowered to rain injustice down on the minority. I fully understand that sometimes, the majority is just plain wrong. But our system has shown a remarkable ability to allow for corrections of injustices. And maybe all these lawsuits are the way a wrong gets righted with regard to gays getting married. I do not presume to have the final word on this issue. But I do wonder that if millions of Americans have expressed at the polls that they do NOT want gay unions to be considered the same thing as heterosexual marriage, mainly because it isn't, then maybe the grandstanding politcians and activist judges might want to pay attention.. since it IS supposed to be "the people" they are supposed to be representing. My gut tells me that eventually most every state will have some form of legal gay marriage on the books. And as long as that is what the majority is comfortable with then I think I will be okay with it too. But if these laws are enacted over the objections of 75-80% of the voters, then I think we will need some new politicians, because the ones currently "serving" will have bowed to special interests while ignoring the base. Yes sometimes doing just that is the right thing to do. I'm just not so sure it applies in this case. I'm sure this topic is not going anywhere anytime soon.. So I expect to revisit it some time in the future.